Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
Love Better & Life Better
Hooked On Hurt: The Truth About Trauma Bonds & Toxic Love
Why you keep falling for the same person, new face and they keep hurting you?
Why do we keep falling for the same toxic relationships? Why does love sometimes feel like pain? Why do we stay—even when we know we should leave?
If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, stuck in relationships that drain you, or trapped in a painful push-and-pull dynamic, this episode is for you.
In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the psychology of trauma bonds, toxic attachment cycles, and why so many people with anxious attachment find themselves repeating the same painful love stories.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
💔 What a trauma bond REALLY is (and why it’s not love, even if it feels like it)
💔 How your nervous system gets addicted to emotional highs & lows
💔 The hidden childhood patterns that shape your adult relationships
💔 Why anxious attachment makes you chase people who pull away
💔 How to recognize if you’re in a trauma bond (key signs to watch for!)
💔 Why leaving a toxic relationship feels impossible (and how to finally break free)
💔 How to rewire your brain and body for secure, healthy love instead of chaos
Why This Matters:
Many of us don’t even realize we’re repeating the same love story over and over again—because the patterns are deeply wired into our subconscious. We confuse trauma for chemistry. We mistake anxiety for passion. And without even realizing it, we keep attracting partners who mirror our deepest wounds.
But here’s the truth: Healing is possible. Love doesn’t have to hurt.
In this episode, we’re breaking it all down so you can finally understand your patterns, take back your power, and learn how to attract the kind of love that feels safe, secure, and fulfilling.
If you’ve ever asked yourself:
🧩 “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners?”
🧩 “Why do I feel addicted to someone who treats me badly?”
🧩 “Why do I stay even when I know I deserve better?”
🧩 “How do I break this toxic cycle for good?”
Then this episode is your sign to dive deep and start healing.
✨ Ready to Break Free? Listen Now!
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