Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
Episodes
30 episodes
“Why This Heartbreak Feels Different: You Broke Long Before It Ended”
I could not find the advice i needed about having gone through heart break before I left. Before you left or they left! Not the normal heart break advice, after they leave you suddenly or you leave suddenly.Most people think heartbreak h...
Why Leaving a Trauma-Bonded Relationship Hurts So Deeply
If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship that was breaking you - or left one and wondered why the pain feels heavier than the love - this episode will speak to you. Trauma bonds make you confuse intensity for love, chaos...
"How Avoidant Partners Can Love Someone with Anxious Attachment"
I know what it feels like to have your partner want to take an interest in your world. How lonley and sad it can feel when you love and feel so empty inside. Anxious partners are givers and you also really need an avoidant partner to step up an...
"How to Break the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle: Making Love Work When You Trigger Each Other"
In this episode, Shazmeen Bank explores the complexities of anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster compassion and connection between partners. The convers...
"Betrayal & Infidelity Q&A: The Pain, the Healing, and the Hard Truths"
In this Q&A episode, Shazmeen Bank delves into the complexities of infidelity, betrayal, and the emotional turmoil that follows. She addresses listener questions about the pain of being cheated on, the impact of infidelity on children, ...
"What Your Partner Needs After You’ve Cheated And How to Show Up"
In this episode, Shazmeen Bank delves into the complex emotions and challenges faced by couples dealing with betrayal and infidelity. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the pain of both the betrayed and the betrayer, and outlines th...
“Time To Break The Shame That Keeps You Inside a Trauma Bond."
In this episode of the Love Better Podcast, Shazmeen Bank addresses the struggles of individuals in toxic and abusive relationships. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's worth, understanding the cycle of abuse, and finding the str...
"Fearful Avoidant Attachment: Traits, Triggers & Relationship Patterns"
In this episode, Shazmeen Bank delves into the complexities of fearful avoidant attachment, exploring its origins, traits, and the emotional struggles faced by individuals with this attachment style. The discussion highlights the impact of ...
Betrayed But Not Broken: Infidelity, Anxious Attachment & the Courage to Walk Away
In this episode of the Love Better podcast, host Shazmeen Bank addresses various themes surrounding love, healing, and emotional well-being. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's pain, navigating betrayal, and understanding att...
"Anxious Attachment: Why You Panic, Feel Unloved & Overthink"
In this episode of the Love Better podcast, Shazmeen Bank delves into the complexities of anxious attachment, exploring its roots in childhood experiences and its impact on adult relationships. She shares her personal journey of recognizing...
Q&A With Shazmeen Bank: On Breakups, Healing & Finding Yourself
In this soulful Q&A episode, I answer the questions you've been quietly holding inside, the ones that are hard to ask out loud and many times you feel shame for even having. Trust me, we have all been there. You are not alone.
"Why Dismissive Avoidants Shut Down, Pull Away, and Struggle to Love"
There’s a reason dismissive avoidants shut down when things get too close. It’s not just cold behavior, it’s protection. In this episode, we go deep into the world of dismissive avoidant attachment: where it starts, how it shapes their personal...
"Silencing Fear and Reclaiming Confidence Through Hypnosis"
Self Confidence! I thought so hard about this episode and I did not want to just add to the millions of videos and podcasts already teaching the amazing ways to grow your self confidence. I researched this topic long and hard and then I decided...
“Why You Give Everything and Still Don’t Feel Loved: Anxiously Attached
I SEE YOU. If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving everything in a relationship and still feeling like it’s not enough… this episode is for you.Anxious attachment isn’t just about “needing too much.” It’s about core wounds tha...
How To Turn Your Pain Into Purpose
There comes a moment—quiet, breaking, raw—when pain invites us to become someone new. This episode is for the part of you that’s tired of carrying silent wounds and is ready to do something meaningful with them.I’m not here to tell you t...
"The Pain of Loving Someone Emotionally Unavailable"
Stonewalling doesn’t look like abuse at first. There’s no yelling. No name-calling. Just silence. Withdrawal. Coldness. But that silence? That’s the thing that breaks you.In this episode, I’m talking about a dynami...
Why Does My Partner Always Pull Away In Our Relationship?
I have been here myself, and I did not know I was here! I thought over giving and all the traits that came with being an anxiously attached lover was LOVE! I had no idea that not stepping into my strength and voice held me back from really find...
Why You’re Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People
Lets dive in.You don’t keep choosing the wrong person because you're naive or broken. You do it because something in you is still trying to finish a story. To prove you’re lovable. To make chaos feel like home....
Is It Time to Walk Away or Keep Fighting for This Love?
Is this relationship still right for me — or am I holding on out of fear, hope, or habit?In this episode, I walk you through one of the hardest questions we face in love: Should I stay… or leave? It’s never a simple d...
Letting Go of the Past: Why You Can’t Heal Until You Do
You’re still hurting. And you’re still healing. Those two things can exist together.In this episode, I walk with you through the kind of healing that doesn’t happen overnight — the kind that asks you to slow down, feel what’s real...
“Attachment Styles & Navigating the 5 Relationship Stages”
At first, all relationships are going to start off with a spark. Thats why we pursue each other. The hope that something ever lasting will be created. The truth is it can be created when we fight against the negative cycles that show up in the ...
The 5 Relationship Stages: Why It Feels So Different Now
It felt so good in the beginning. it was warm, they were PERFECT, they read your mind (or did they😏), and you both saw a future together! Everything flowed so easily:- The chemistry. The effort. The closeness. (BTW - if you want ...
When Your Avoidant Partner’s Capacity for Love Isn’t Enough for Your Heart
In this episode, I’m speaking to the part of you that still loves them… but knows something’s changed.Maybe you’re dating someone who’s emotionally unavailable, and you keep hoping they’ll show up differently. Or maybe ...
Why You Can’t Leave a Toxic Relationship (Even When You Want To)
We talk a lot about toxic love—but what does an unhealthy relationship actually look like in real life?In this episode, I’m diving deep into the signs of unhealthy relationships that often go unnoticed, minimized, or ev...
The Anxious Attachment Cycle: Why You Love Hard and Hurt More
When we begin to understand the traits around our attachment styles, the coins really begin to drop and so much begins to make sense on how we love, almost that you will stop feeling like something is wrong with you or judging yourself for want...