Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
Love Better & Life Better
Why You’re Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People
Lets dive in.
You don’t keep choosing the wrong person because you're naive or broken.
You do it because something in you is still trying to finish a story.
To prove you’re lovable.
To make chaos feel like home.
To rewrite the ending.
GET COMFORTABLE WITH REJECTION! I would rather you get rejected, then settle and play small, and lose yourself!
In this episode, I go beneath the surface of dating and into the deeper truth:
Who we’re drawn to is rarely random — it’s often wired in us. That's why you can end up always feeling like your dating the "same" guy or girl", and repeating patterns all over again.
Listen, when you get clear about what you want and align that to the fact that you are so deserving of a safe, beautiful, committed relationship, watch who you attract! I swear, you will look for me and say "Shazmeen, I did my own healing and inner work, I saw my pattern's, I took responsibility for what I was tolerating and now, I set boundaries and I met someone that would have never been my first choice and here I am, no longer feeling like I am settling but finally feeling safe".
I can not wait for those stories!!
In this episode I cover:
- The need to be authentic and brave
- What anxious and avoidant attachment really looks like in dating
- The cost of settling and not having boundaries
- The nervous system signals that tell you this is familiar (but not safe)
- Prominent red flags you keep turning into excuses
- Green flags that seen so simple & boring but are the foundation in a person
- The difference between love and emotional intensity
- And how to gently — but finally — start choosing people who don’t need fixing and stop settling and making excuses for bad behaviour.
If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I always end up dating someone that leaves me chasing or breaks up with me, and why do i take them back?', this episode is for you!!
You're not asking for too much. Your simply just not asking!
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