Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
Love Better & Life Better
Why Does My Partner Always Pull Away In Our Relationship?
I have been here myself, and I did not know I was here! I thought over giving and all the traits that came with being an anxiously attached lover was LOVE! I had no idea that not stepping into my strength and voice held me back from really finding myself and setting some really tough boundaries that my relationship needed. I was not being mean. I was choosing me too! I mattered as well.
If you’ve ever found yourself over-functioning in a relationship — chasing, overthinking, softening your truth, or silencing your needs just to feel safe — this episode is for you.
Because when you live with anxious attachment, especially in a relationship with someone avoidant, love can start to feel like emotional survival.
You try to be easy.
You try to not need too much.
You try to be chosen.
And somewhere in all of that — you lose yourself. But you are so fixated now on the relationship surviving you forget to pause and take a step back.
But here’s the truth I want you to remember:
Love is not meant to cost you your voice, your boundaries, or your identity.
In this episode, I guide you through the emotional terrain of what it really looks like to be anxiously attached in a long-term relationship or dynamic with an avoidant partner — and what it takes to begin reclaiming your space in that relationship without leaving yourself behind.
You’ll learn:
- How anxious attachment shows up in dating, marriage, and long-term love
- Why avoidant partners can trigger your deepest fears — and what to do about it
- The invisible ways you begin to shrink and abandon your needs
- How to set boundaries without guilt and stop trying to manage their discomfort
- The power of micro-boundaries to shift the dynamic
- Why self-worth isn’t a mindset — it’s a daily practice of not abandoning yourself
- How to stop calling emotional over-functioning “love”
- And how to rediscover yourself — not in opposition to the relationship, but inside it
This episode is not about fixing your partner.
It’s about coming back home to yourself.
Because your sensitivity, your feelings, your needs — they were never too much.
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