Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
Love Better & Life Better
“Stonewalling: A Hidden Form of Relationship Abuse”
Stonewalling doesn’t look like abuse at first. There’s no yelling. No name-calling. Just silence. Withdrawal. Coldness.
But that silence? That’s the thing that breaks you.
In this episode, I’m talking about a dynamic that too many women—and men—go through and never name. One partner wants to talk, reconnect, fix it. The other shuts down. Looks away. Walks out. Days pass. The damage is done in silence, and nobody sees the bruises because they’re emotional.
I share the emotional and psychological toll of stonewalling, how it mimics abandonment trauma, how avoidantly attached partners often use it without realizing, and why this becomes an invisible form of abuse.
You’ll hear:
- What it’s like to be in a relationship where your pain is met with silence
- How stonewalling breaks trust and nervous system safety
- Why it feels like you’re going “crazy” even when no one’s shouting
- How this leads to resentment, burnout, and ultimately—divorce
- What to do if you’re being stonewalled or if you’re the one doing it
Stonewalling is a nervous system trauma for many—especially those with anxious attachment. It mimics the pain of abandonment and creates a deep, confusing form of emotional neglect. You’re left questioning your worth, feeling like you’re “too much,” when in reality, someone else has simply chosen to disengage.
If you’ve ever begged someone to speak to you, to explain, to just see you—and they shut down instead—this episode is for you.
You were never too much. They just never learned how to stay.
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